Everyone, right from a toddler to an adult experiences anxiety at one time or the other in their life and it is closely related to fear which is another normal and necessary emotion that everyone experiences. Anxiety is often associated with an anticipated fear of something happening in future and is very common among children between ages 2 to 6 years. There are various kinds of anxieties in children and their nature keeps changing with the childâ€™s growth.
- Just born kids experience â€œStranger Anxietyâ€ when confronted by people they donâ€™t recognise and are often seen clinging to parents/people they see on a regular basis.
- At toddler stage, a child experiences â€œSeparation Anxietyâ€ when one or both the parents leave the child in the environment he is not used to.
- Children in the age group of 4 to 7 have anxiety for things that donâ€™t exist in reality but terrifies them like ghosts, monsters and zombies.
- â€œSocial anxietyâ€ is seen in many children as young as 2 years and they often have the fear of meeting and interacting with people and often have few friends outside the family.
What causes anxiety/phobia/fear?
Genetic makeup of a child:
Like many other traits that a child picks up from his/her parents, anxiety is also one such trait that genetically gets transmitted to a child and are born with anxious temperament and seem to be anxious of many situations without any external influence.
Transitions in the family:
As the child grows up, he goes through a lot of transitions in the family that could range from addition of a new member in the family to the loss of an existing one. Anxiety can develop through transition from staying at home to going to school and making new friends and mastering new tasks.
Disturbing incidents in the past – Internal:
Every family goes through multiple phases of life and there; will be instances where parents might separate leaving the child in a confused and a traumatised state. In many of the cases a child gets disturbed both mentally and physically when two families (staying together as an extended family) gets separated after a long time of staying together. Extended separation from the family members can also add to the levels of anxiety.
Disturbing incidents in the past – External:
There are various external factors that can mentally affect the child especially when he/she is growing up in a place where there is a probability of community violence, natural disasters etc.
Apart from the above mentioned broader categories, there may be various other reasons that can make a child anxious, but not in a healthier way. Recurrence of such behaviour can help a parent identify them and take necessary steps to overcome it.