Your toddler cries
as soon as she sees you starting to leave !
He/she hates to say goodbye because you won’t be seen around.
What’s going on?
The first sign of this major developmental milestone
will be an anxious reaction to unfamiliar people. As your pre-schooler begins
to realise, that you are not there by his side, the anxiety steps in and peaks with
the duration of 10 – 18 months. Separation anxiety is a common developmental
phase which triggers the development of two common fears: a fear of strangers
and a fear of being separated from you. This happens mostly when parents are
the only caregivers and children tend to trust only on the caregivers. Hence goodbyes
tend to confuse and upset them.
Having a few coping strategies can help the
child overcome the anxiety. Following are some tips that can help you prepare
your child for separation?
introduce her/him to new situations and people. This will minimise her/his
reactions and acclimatise to new places or people and may eventually give her
an assurance her that this is normal.
your baby knows that she/he has other caregivers. Give her/him time to play or
talk with the caregiver and get comfortable. Babies who are used to having
other caregivers get over separation anxiety faster when they enter the
preschool or kindergarten stage or are admitted into a new playschool.
goodbyes lighter and quicker. Don’t prolong goodbyes or resort to sneaking out.
It’s best to let your child know you’re going and that you’ll be back soon.
a trial. If you’re leaving your toddler in a day care centre/playschool or plan
to leave with a caregiver, first try out for an hour or so. As your baby becomes familiar with the place
and the people, you can extend the timing. Eventually, your child will get used
to it and will remember that you return after you leave.
thumb rule is don’t linger or turn-around to get a quick look while you are leaving.
Also, once you leave the baby, don’t go back again to check her/him. This will
only make it harder on her/him. You can just call and check if she/he is
your promises. It's important that you don’t make false promises. When you have
promised to return, follow through it. This is how your child will develop
confidence and cope with the separation. This also helps kid develop coping skills and
begins to learn the fundamental of what is once committed needs to be followed
is everything. Don’t start a day care when the separation anxiety is at its peak
i.e. between the age of 8 months to 1 year. And never force the child to go to
someone if she doesn't want to. When you do this, child's stranger anxiety will
evolve into full-fledged separation anxiety. Let her make acquaintances at her
stranger anxiety can be a good sign that you and your child have a healthy
attachment, which is essential for emotional development.
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of reading start with the first book a baby hears. Reading to toddlers sets the
foundation for later independent reading and gives them the very necessary
emergent literacy skills they need. Exposure to reading right from the toddler
or preschool-age prevents most reading problems.
Here are the advantages your child can
receive by being exposed to reading:
- Academic excellence - Numerous studies have shown that
students who are exposed to reading before preschool are more likely to do well
in all stages of education.
- Speech - Kids, who read often, gain a hone on
reading skills. After all, practice makes you perfect!
- Better communication - It gives a large vocabulary of words
and an insight of how to use them. The child will also develop phonemic
awareness and letter identification.
- Brain stimulation - Reading strengthens brain connections
by actually building network of new words.
- Basics of how to read a book - Children not just learn new words as
they read but also unconsciously absorb information about how to structure
sentences and how to use words and language effectively.
- Fundamentals of literacy - Reading introduces concepts such as
numbers, letters, colours, and shapes in a fun way. As the child approaches
school age, he/she will have a better grasp of concepts.
- Acclimatisation to new experiences - Reading a story dealing with a topic relating
to the child’s experience shows him that it’s under norms and familiarises him
to the know-hows.
- Imagination - Reading lets the brain translate the
descriptions we read of people, places and things into pictures. This
imagination can greatly influence the child’s development.
- Emotional development - Read to your child with expression, by
changing the pitch of your voice higher or lower where it's appropriate or
using different voices for different characters. When you do this, your child hears you using
many different emotions and expressive sounds, which fosters social and
- Cognitive skills - When you read stop once in a while
and invite your baby to look, point, touch on the pictures or text.
Simultaneously ask questions or make comments on the pictures (‘’Look what a
cute kitty. What colour is her dress?’’) - All of this promotes social development
and thinking skills.
- Show that reading is fun- Use rhymes, sounds and actions so
your baby gets connected and starts imitating sounds, recognizing pictures, and
learning words. Help them view books as an indulgence so at a later stage they
don’t take reading as a chore.
Read every day!
Note - Books for babies should have simple, repetitive text and