Tips on how fathers can take care of their child when alone

                           

There will be times when mum needs a day out, and dad has to volunteer to stay with the child alone. Father soften stumble at this but you know what,Dads play mum’s role differently’. Fathers are as nurturant as mothers.  Just that their approach towards the child’s signals is different. Fathers are more likely to excite children, make them more confident and responsive. Yet they’re just as gentle, loving and caring as mothers are. 

 Below are some tips that will help fathers to take of their kids in the absence of mommy.

1.Prepare in advance and stick to routines

Younger children need lot more things to make themselves comfortable. Take down important points from mom about – when and how to feed the child, put him/her to sleep etc. Setting reminders will help you timely check diapers and maintain feeding and naptime schedules.

2.Do what interests your child

This is a good opportunity to know what your child likes. Often fathers stuck at this as they are not able to understand what the child wants to do. Try giving different options on what they want to eat, play and watch and get involved completely.

3.Build connection

Although younger kids make use of sounds or actions more than words, but that’s how they communicate. Just stroking and talking to the child in ways that are responsive to his/her social cues (such as crying, fussing or any other expression) makes children comfortable with you. This kind of bonding can help facilitate enhanced social, emotional, and physical development at young age.

4.Keep calm, anyway

Most children test your patience hard. Now when momma is not home, they have got more freedom to showcase their nasty side. They scribble on walls, paint on themselves, spill snacks, make mess everywhere. Just take a deep breath and laugh at the situation.

5.Have some quiet time

Telling stories, reading books or singing songs are good soothers. It gives you some quiet time together. On a wider note, every verbal exchange will familiarize the child with basic communication rules and aids in developing language.

6.You might fail

It could be that you’ve tried a hundred things to keep your child happy but he/she is reluctant to stay calm. In situation like this when you don’t understand what he/she needs, do not hesitate to seek help by calling your wife or an experienced person in reach. Remember the best way, however, is learning by doing.

7.Share responsibilities on all days

Get involved in every task related with the child. Help the mother with changing diapers, giving baths, feeding, getting your child dressed for school or checking his homework. Sharing some load will help you manage things alone when needed.

Pre-schoolers and bedtime problems

                                                     

If you're struggling with your pre-schooler’s bedtime routine, the below pointers are sure to put your problems to rest.

Make bedtime a priority

Your child should know his sleeping time and must adhere to it strictly. At least an hour before bed-time he/she should unwind from active play and get into the bed-time preparation. It could be brushing teeth, putting on night suit, listening to a story or a goodnight hug.

Avoid any distractions

During your child’s bedtime hours, maintain a quiet environment. Avoid any kind of disturbance like watching TV, or just anything that is exciting and would make the child stay up.

Give a comfort object

Young children are reluctant to sleep alone and would want you to sleep beside them so they feel secure. To serve the purpose of security you can offer your child a security object to keep him/her relaxed while they sleep. If your child is afraid of the dark, turn on a night bulb or keep the passageway lights on for some light into the bedroom.

Make transition to bedtime soothing

Taking time to wind down might help your child fall asleep. Make the lights dim, encourage soft music or bedtime stories to have a calming transition to sleep. It is suggested that even the parents or siblings slow down their activities to create quietness. Also, see that the child doesn’t get over sleep during daytime nap. This would make the child stay active at night and might lead to bed-time battle which you’re going to lose.

Make him/her stay in the bed

Before you put your child to the bed check whether all his requirements like water, blanket, comfort toy; are placed near his/her bed so he/she doesn’t trail you out of the room asking for anything.

Handle mid-night awakening

If your child wakes up in the middle of the night and calls out to you, give him/her some time to settle down and go back to sleep. If he/she has awaken because of a bad dream respond quickly, assure him/her and stay on his/her side until he/she falls asleep.

Consistency is the key

Stick to the bedtime routine and eventually your child will follow it even without your instructions.