Worried about your
child’s impulsive behaviour? We advice you 11 ways to look into his reactions
and ascertain the problems that he might be facing.
Impulsive behaviour is
quite common in growing children as it is one of the most-common ways through
which they express their emotions. Most preschoolers show varied signs of
impulsive behaviour as at this tender age, their brain starts developing and
responding to the world they interact with.
Impulsive behaviour in
small children is related to their lack of control over emotions due to which,
they show spontaneous reactions such as impatience to wait for their turn,
rushing into activities and getting angry easily. Such behaviour normally
occurs during situations where children are hungry, bored, feel lonely and
ignored or when they do not get the attention they seek.
behaviour should not be allowed to become a part of their personality because
impulsive actions, if not controlled at an early age, can adversely affect
their lives as well as their relationships with loved ones. Moreover, children
who do not have control over their impulsive reactions may find it difficult to
adjust to the social set-up in which they live, grow and become a part of. Such
children are often cornered and disliked by other children of their age and
even by adults because through impulsive reactions.
Since it is the
parents who play a crucial role in shaping the personality of their children—as
the little ones learn their first lessons of life from their parents—it is
their responsibility to first identify the signs of impulsive behaviour in
their children and then take suitable steps to control it.
Here are some remedial
measures and techniques that you can adopt at home and make your little one
atmosphere at home: Maintain
a loving and understanding atmosphere at home, where every family member shows
respect for each other. Be very careful with your behaviour towards others in
the family, especially in your child’s presence, as he may often pick up and
imitate your actions.
your child attention: Impulsive
behaviour may sometimes occur because your child may not be getting the
much-required parental attention. So, respond to him promptly whenever he comes
up to you to say something. Your attention, combined with love, will be helpful
in keeping your child on the right track and also in reducing his tendency to
show impulsive behaviour.
to your child: Speak to your child to
get a clear picture of what he feels whenever he shows impulsive reactions such
as getting angry instantly, screaming, crying and feeling frustrated. In a
polite way, ask him as to why he acts in that particular way and let him
express himself freely. This way, you will be able to find out the problem
areas and the situations that make him impulsive.
your child understand: Make your child realise that impulsive reactions such as
throwing or breaking his toys and screaming when angry, will not make him feel
good later on, though it may give him some temporarily relief during a
particular situation. Further, explain to him that such behaviour will create a
bad impression about him in front of others.
your child: Monitor your child’s
activities, behaviour and mood swings on any day to know how he behaves in
different circumstances. For this, you need to keep a track of his activities
in the daily routine such as studying, playing with his friends, watching
television, dining with the family among other such things. Check how he reacts
to different situations.
the television time: Observe
your child’s television-viewing time and take note of his favourite shows on
TV. Even if it is a cartoon show, make sure that your child is not exposed
to impulsive acts of violence on television, as he may get influenced
easily and may even imitate such undesirable actions in real life circumstances.
your child in finishing tasks: At times, your child may lose temper and act impulsively due to
his inability to accomplish the task in hand. So, to make things easier for him
and to prevent impulsive actions, divide his work into smaller chunks so that
he does his work easily, without losing patience.
good behaviour: Acknowledge your
child’s efforts to control his impulsive behaviour through words of
appreciation. Praise him whenever he waits for his turn patiently and whenever
he regains his self-control. This positive reinforcement will motivate your
child to repeat good behaviour.
a positive approach: Do not explain
the bad effects of impulsive behaviour through prolonged lectures. Whenever
your child shows impulsive reactions, try not to respond in anger as keeping
pace with such behaviour will become difficult for you, if you also reply
angrily. Instead, approach your child with a positive mind and attitude and
focus on the remedial ways to control his reactions.
space for leisure time: Indulge your child into healthy and productive activities such
as drawing, reading story books and making crafts among other such things.
Productive activities will keep your child’s mind occupied and will also
channelise his energy towards something progressive.
justified expectations: Above all, have reasonable expectations from your child, keeping
in mind his age and level of development. It is normal for small children to
react on an impulse as they do not have the cognitive ability to exercise
control over their responses.
Remember, that as a
parent, you should think from your child’s perspective as well. However, as a
parent, you should realise that the reasons due to which your child shows
impulsive behaviour may seem silly, but may be of serious concern for him or