7 Ways to Teach your Toddler to Share



If I want it, its mine

If I give it to you and change my mind later,

Its mine

If I can take it away from you, its mine.

If I had it a while age, its mine.

If its mine, it will never belong to anyone

else no matter what.

If we are building something together,

All the pieces are mine.

If it looks just like mine, it is mine.

 

This appeared in the Syndicate Weekly newspaper article ‘Families Today’ by T Berry Brazelton and is a humorous reminder of normal toddler behaviour.

“No! That’s mine” your pre-schooler yells at his playmate when his favourite toy is grabbed from him. Not only do they call their own stuff "mine," every other thing that is liked by a pal also becomes ‘’mine’’. Difficulty in sharing is a common behaviour for toddlers that can be learnt by using few simple techniques.

 

1.    Start young

The first step in sharing is to learn to take turns. This practice can be inculcated from the time your child reaches out for an object. You can start having playdates with your child wherein you can teach sharing by passing the object back and forth while saying ‘my turn, your turn.’

 

2.    Balance sharing

The best way to get your tot to share is to respect your tot’s things. You can strike this balance by keeping some things only for him/her and asking permission before you use anything that belongs to him. This will definitely assure him/her that his toys will not be mishandled and it will let him to trust you to give his share or turn.

 

3.    Make it exciting

Toddlers love it when you look excited to do something and they are likely to repeat the action to see your excitement. Play games with your toddler and pre-schooler that involves sharing and turn-taking. For instance, do puzzles, build blocks, plant the garden and give him/her things to share with friends.

 

4.    Make sharing more concrete

While pre-schoolers are just learning to share things with friends, the concept is very abstract for toddlers. Know that sharing is learnt over time as children’s social emotional and cognitive development increases. What you can do is start focussing on reinforcement when your toddler shares anything during his/her play.

 

5.    Use descriptive praise

When your child does share and take turns, make sure you praise the good behaviour. Always use phrases that suggests, sharing brings happiness. Give concrete details of what the child did and how it made you proud. Such reinforcement will help the child remember the acts and not just the praise.

 

6.    Don't punish doggedness/stinginess

Remember pre-schoolers are impulsive and they don’t have grasp of time. So waiting for his/her turn to play with his coveted toy is frustrating for him/her. You will have to handle such behaviour patiently and by using positive reinforcement rather than admonishment. Forcing to share something when he/she is really not ready to give up, will only leave the child in resentment.

 

7.    Homespun values

The seeds of good values are sown right from the childhood. Display acts of generosity now and then. You can do this by pointing out good sharing in others and most importantly leading by your own example.

 

Summer Schedule


Summer is just around the corner and with kids you should always have variety of activities up your sleeve to keep them busy and happy. Would you not like borrowing a ready to go summer schedule for kids? Well, scouring some ideas from internet and adding our own we bring to you a summer schedule that gives your kids something to look forward to each day.

Make something Monday

1)    Get crafty with your all year long photographs. Make a collage or scrap book with all the photographs

2)    Go painting with natural brush tools. Say, different types of leaves, twigs, etc.

3)    Make a pillow out of your favourite t-shirt that you have outgrown

4)    Make sun melted crayon art on a canvas board with zero efforts

5)    Plan a family movie night. Put on some costumes, make some snacks and whoopee!

 

Time to read Tuesday

1)    Teach your child full names of your family members

2)    Have your child memorise your contact number

3)    Time to show where is your house located. Make him/her learn your home address

4)    Read a story book under a tree

5)    Read photo books on specific topics for toddlers

6)    Have your child read the summer schedule every day for you

 

What’s cooking Wednesday

1)    Make fruit smoothies, fruit kebobs, popsicles etc.

2)    Bake cake, pizza, cookies, etc.

3)    Make summer special lemonade for everyone

4)    Make super fun breakfast like pancakes, chocolate idlis, etc.

5)    Prepare home-made icecream

 

Thoughtful Thursday

1)    Talk to your child about emergency and teach them emergency dial numbers

2)    Practice offering help when someone needs it

3)    Plant a seedling outside

4)    Arrange a shelter for birds on your terrace

5)    Donate old books, clothes and toys to charity

 

Clearing the mess Friday

1)    Organise toys

2)    Teach to categorize things and thus segregate (based on colour, type, etc.)

3)    Discard unused stuff

4)    Learn folding clothes

5)    Have a pool time to relax or fill up water balloons and get wet

 

Be social Saturday

1)    Host a tea party

2)    Call relatives who stay far away

3)    Have your child narrate a story to you – an imaginary one or that you have illustrated to him/her before

4)    Practice making social expressions – happy, sad, excited, disgusted, fearful etc.

5)    Mirror your sibling or an elder and switch roles.

6)    Have a family singing or playing time

 

Somewhere fun Sunday

1)    Learn how to walk on the pedestrian footpath when you go to the local park

2)    Play an obstacle course using cardboards and hoola loops

3)    Go to a water park

4)    Find a kids carnival or play zone

5)    Head to the park to ride bike and play on swings