Your toddler screaming may look
mischief, but its developmentally normal phase which sets in at around 14
months. Good news is that your toddler is now alert and self-aware and knows
what he wants. At 18 months, toddlers have very little communication skills. A
child of this age generally knows not more than fifty words and hence it makes
sense that in the absence of language, he uses another outlet to express how he
feels. He takes screeching as a way of communicating his needs. But it may not
be taken very well by your surroundings and may even cause uncomfortable
What to do about it?
is to have a few responses ready to keep a balance with your toddler’s need to
express. Excitement, tantrums for attention, exhaustion, hunger, being bored,
being over-stimulated, uncomfortable etc can be reasons that could lead to a screaming
child. For this, you need to identify what triggers
his screaming and then acknowledge his feelings. If you know what tends to
start the shrieking, you can figure out what he's really trying to say and you
can avoid those situations.
example, if your kid wants your undivided attention, you can prop them up on
your lap and smile at them or make some gestures indicating that you are not
back is the last thing you should do. Follow the rule ‘No screaming at your
toddler to stop screaming’.
Toddlers enjoy this extra attention
that they get by screaming. On the other hand, do not give into their demands
to stop the screech, as this will convey them that screaming will get them what
You can divert
him/her and make them do some other activity or hand some interesting objects. Or
better way is to catch his attention by talking to him in a low pitch so he
gains curiosity to listen to you.
You can sometimes also try ignoring it, although
it’s not going to be easy and is not something that must be done frequently.
As the pitch of a baby's cry increases,
so does the urgency to respond to his needs arise. A distinctive
ultra-high-pitched cry can indicate the presence of neurological problems. You
should asses if the noise is because he is distressed or is he/he being overtly
- Coach on the difference of private & social conversations
Teach the concept of social and private
voice tone. Give a demo of how you talk in home and how you do outside home. Teach
your child different ways to communicate (he can come near to you and signal
what he wants).
The fact that tots have poor impulse
control makes them react repulsively especially when they are in public or when
you go off their sight. This can also sometimes be separation anxiety. What he/she
needs is a slow time for introductions with acquaintances or new
Does scribbling make sense?
Scribbles may not make sense to adults but
these lines and loops and sniggles are meaningful to a young child.
Why is scribbling so important for young
- Scribbling and drawing are the first steps in learning to write for
- They are a child’s creative way of penning his/her thoughts.
- Children use this very skill in their later stage of writing, from as
early as kindergarten or nursery or much later in life when they need a
penchant for writing.
- It’s a good way to release their emotions.
- Scribbling allows pre-schoolers to write to feel independent, as they
are usually told what ‘not to do’ and this activity sets them free to follow
their whims and fancies fully.
- Experiences in early childhood are ways of approaching life. And all
that which is learnt through creativity gives positive brain reinforcement.
Encourage scribbling and drawing
- Set out lots of paper, pencils, crayons, and
markers so children can draw or scribble whenever they want.
- Give away plane sheets which allow them free
style drawing. Let them put their own thoughts into the scribbles.
- Encourage making miss you, love you cards for
friends and family so the kid gets to leave his impression with those
- Ask the child to explain what is written when
he comes to show you his drawing.
- Make drawing
and scribbling important by clipping it to the walls.
- Do not give negative comments as this may
discourage your toddler from showing his/her drawing again.