that you have to go to meet your child’s teacher may make you feel anxious. You
may wonder what to expect from the school, and what is expected of you. Parent-teacher
conferences are actually an incredibly important part of your child's preschool
experience. It is important to consult
with your child’s teacher about academics, social and emotional development as
your child’s preschool teacher will have a perspective that you may be
completely unaware of.
Checklist: Before the conference
a time to meet. Ask the teacher about available slots and block your slot.
your child’s work, and progress reports.
a quick talk with your child. Does he/she like preschool? What does he/she like
the most and the least at school? What is his/her favourite activity? Communicate
with your toddler/preschooler that you are meeting his teacher.
notes of the topics that you want to discuss with the teacher
a list of questions to have a productive conversation with the teacher.
the teacher know if there is a particular topic you want to discuss. If you want to talk about your child’s
progress in reading, the teacher will keep the supporting material on hand to
aid your discussion.
on time. Remember that other parents may also have their appointment scheduled
for that day.
communication will be the most effective way to work together with your child's
teacher. Remember that you both want the same thing: your child to learn and do
the school staff and sub-staff to ask about your child’s strengths and needs.
What should you talk to the teacher
specifics about your child- his home life, his social life and interests. Let
the teacher know the child’s life as some events can definitely impact a
child's behaviour. Your child’s social and emotional development is as
important as academic development.
inputs from the teacher about your child’s strengths and weaknesses. Ask her to
provide you with specific details so may be able to provide some background
insight. When you exchange such information, it gives you and the teacher a
better picture of your child and helps you to plan his development milestones.
on the progress. Find out how your child is doing by asking questions about her
knowledge of learning, interaction with other children and willingness to
participate in class discussions.
to see your child’s work. Ask how the teacher examines the child work.
your feedback. Discuss your concerns and share thoughts about your child.
Explain what you think your child is good at and what he/she needs more help
your pre-schooler’s teacher mentions any developmental or behavioural issue, listen
to what she has to say and create an action plan to work together. Understand in
what ways you can help your child at home with lesson recap, reading, home
task, behavioural issues, etc.
another time to check on the progress. Make sure you have an agreed
communication channel (in person, by phone, email) that is comfortable for both
to your child after the conference. Emphasise the positive points you discussed
during the conference and also explain what is expected out of him/her.
right from a toddler to an adult experiences anxiety at one time or the other
in their life and it is closely related to fear which is another normal and
necessary emotion that everyone experiences. Anxiety is often associated with
an anticipated fear of something happening in future and is very common among
children between ages 2 to 6 years. There are various kinds of anxieties in
children and their nature keeps changing with the child’s growth.
Is it ok to be anxious?
anxieties in children is not an easy job always. Sometimes, an anxious child
can show symptoms like crying and clinging behaviours and are usually seen in
new born kids. But not many children are expressive; most of them try to hide
their feelings as they find it too difficult to express it to others and may
end up in to angry tantrums or insolent behaviours. All these anxieties if
short lived are considered to be normal and parents need not worry as they will
reduce over a period of time. In fact, being anxious is beneficial especially
when facing a difficult situation and helps a child in preparing to face it.
a child is very young, fear and anxiety is accepted. But, as a child grows all
the fear and anxieties that were considered normal at the younger age may seem
less appropriate and might need your immediate attention.
Symptoms of an over anxious child:
- Tantrums and restless
thinking and self-criticism with over exaggeration of situations
- Continuous fear
of unknown things/situation
- Shows discomfort
in socialising with other kids
- Too much of
- Lack of
- Very demanding
anxiety prevents a child from enjoying a normal life and interferes in their
day to day life, as a parent you can help your child overcome it by following
the below steps: Help
your child overcome anxiety:
to forget, every child is different and will require different methods of
overcoming anxiety/fear. Allow your child a lot of time to express his/her
negative thoughts around anxiety/fear/phobia before you could come out with
more ways of overcoming the anxious behaviour.
- Take care of your child’s
daily needs and plan a daily schedule that meets the child’s basic needs and
avoid sudden changes.
- There are
various emotions and feelings that a child has to understand. You can help your
child identify and differentiate feelings through his/her own body like
butterflies in the stomach, tight hands, cold feet and etc.
- Give an ear to your
child’s feelings and never discourage their feelings.
- Make your child
feel that you are there with him/her in every situation by expressing yourself
through cuddling, singing, storytelling and many more.
- Respect your
- You are your
child’s role model; always showcase a brave behaviour in front of your child.
- Teach relaxation
skills like deep and slow breathing.
- Encourage “Feel
- Teach Problem-solving