It is very essential to
talk effectively with kids to develop strong relationship with them. Read about
the 10 communication mistakes of parents which should be avoided to strengthen
the bonding with kids.
Parenting is a challenging job, though it carries significant life tasks. Every
parent has his or her own way to raising the child. But there are many
misconceptions about raising kids that can lead to ineffective power struggles
and communication and thus can damage the parent’s
self-esteem. Here are 10 communication mistakes which many parent tend to do.
1. Blabbering a Lot
If you keep talking too much, your kids tend to tune them out. Human brain can
keep only 30 seconds of new information i.e. one or two sentences having unique
information in active memory at once. So if you keep blabbering, then your kids
may ignore you as they hardly can absorb the things you are telling.
2. Giving Warnings
When you keep nagging and giving warnings from time to time, you are actually
allowing the kids to ignore you because they know you will warn again and again
in the near future doing nothing in reality. You should make firm warnings and
3. Not Listening
Attentive listening can
be difficult for you, but it is important for you to do even if your mind is
preoccupied with a thousand things. Your kids would want you to listen to them,
and if you do not give an effective ear, kids will not learn the value of respect and empathy.
4. Being Insensitive
Even if you attentively listen to your child, you have to show your sensitivity and empathy as well. Otherwise this will distance your
connection with your kids. It all builds with trust, respect, and connection,
without which you cannot impart the values you want to impart to your kids.
5. Digging Up the Dead
“Today is a new day” – you should learn how to move on. Stop bringing up events
in the past where your kids went wrong even though you warned them or something
in every conversation. This shows your low expectations and you are not trying
to push yourselves to make it better.
6. Not Being Specific
If you are not happy about something, discuss it with your kids. They will not
get dreams that you are not happy about something they want to do. You have to
confront it yourself. You cannot accuse them for not understanding what you
felt. You should be specific.
7. Drawing Conclusions
Allow your kids to explain the situation. Do not jump into conclusions by
making assumptions. This is a big sign of miscommunication. Always talk out and
allow your kids to talk to you as well. Stop generalising the situations.
8. Communicating in
When you are stressed, tired, or angry, please let it go. You tend to be in
ineffective communication when you have lost your mind. So wait for some time
until you cool down, and then you communicate with your kids. Ask your kids to
talk to you later on if it is not urgent.
9. Not Rephrasing
communication mistake is when you are unable to pass the message
correctly to the receiver. Being able to rephrase is important. If you are not
sure of what your kids have told, ask them if they meant what you understood or
is it something else.
10. Forcing Them in
Watch out when are our kids free to talk. You cannot force them to be available
according to your timetable. They may be busy when you are free, and that can
lead to miscommunication. It is better if you adjust your timings rather than
expecting your kids to do so.
Effective communication is not really tough. You just need to be aware of your
own feelings and reflex reactions; you should slow down to choose a more
mindful way. Re-examine your priorities and let things go – then everything
will fall into place.
Make a cute snowman
decoration using two paper plates. This makes a nice decoration to put on a
door or hang in a window.
- 2 white paper plates
- Construction paper (black, red) or wrapping paper
- An orange pipe cleaner (for the nose)
- A short length of yearn or ribbon
- Hole punch
- Marker or crayons
- Optional: googly eyes, large buttons
1. On one of
the paper plates, cut off the outer rim, making a smaller plate.
2. Punch a
hole near the rim on both plates.
3. Tie the
two plates together, using the yarn (or ribbon).
4. On black
construction paper, draw and then cut out a top hat and two boots. On colored construction
paper (or gift wrap paper), draw and then cut out two mittens.
5. Glue the
hat, boots and mittens on the snowman.
glue on googly eyes or draw eyes. Draw a mouth. For the nose, cut a short
length from an orange pipe cleaner. Stick the pipe cleaner through the plate to
secure it (if the plate is too tough, make a tiny hole with the tip of the
buttons, you can cut out shapes from construction paper, use round stickers,
glue on real buttons, or simply draw them.
now have a cute snowman decoration!