GOOD TOUCH & BAD TOUCH


Megha and her four year old had a deal of hugs on completing tasks. Every time Megha found her daughter completing a task she would give her a big hug. Hugs and hi-fives had become a favourite for her little one.  

One morning, while sipping a cup of tea Megha reads a disturbing headline: 3-year-old Sexually Assaulted By Uncle.

Isn’t it horrifying? 

Stories of abuse have taken a toll in today’s times. Blazing headlines from – ‘18 months old raped in Kolkata’ to ‘10 year old’s sketch send rapist uncle to jail’ are finding place in the papers at a pace that can shake one’s faith in humanity and terrify every parent. By an overwhelming majority, in most of these cases young children are assaulted by someone who is part of the household – uncle, cook, nanny, etc.

Being a mother of two young daughters, it was alarming for Megha to read such a horrific instance. It brought her to realize the importance of talking to the girls about being weary of an unhealthy touch. But a thought that echoed in her head was ‘aren’t they too young to be able to differentiate between right and wrong?’

While pre-schoolers undoubtedly are too young to clearly differentiate between right and wrong, they can be educated in the most simplest of ways to realise what makes them comfortable and uncomfortable. Below are some key points that can help every parent in taking necessary precaution of teaching their little ones the differences in good and bad touch. 

1) Familiarize them to their body parts from an early age of 1.5-2 years

2) Talk easy – choose a soft conversational tone that causally imparts the message

3) Clearly explain their private parts and that nobody is allowed to touch these

4) Clearly define the limits of politeness with strangers who make them feel uncomfortable or touch them in a bad way. Ensure to teach them to speak out loudly and confidently if anyone does so

5) Avoid unnecessary touch – drift away from traditions of the society and don’t force your child to hug/sit in the lap of every elder they greet

6) Reinforce the safe circle to your child

7) Most importantly, have conversations with your child every day and learn about their day to understand their reactions and interactions with different people

The safety of our children is undoubtedly the most important aspect of our life as parents. Let us empower them with the basic means of protecting themselves and communicating/sharing with us anything that makes them uncomfortable. 



THE ONE THING ABOUT RESPONSIBILITY EVERY PARENT NEEDS TO KNOW


Aanya, places her tiny squeaky shoes straight in the shoe rack after returning from school. Kabir helps his mom clear the plates off the table after dinner. Rayaan loves keeping the house guest-ready by clearing not only his toys but also placing his mom’s novels in the book rack. 

Such a blessing right!

It would be a dream come true for every parent to have a child that thoughtfully takes care of their surroundings (or least their own belongings). Parenting is not only about instilling manners and education, but most importantly about nurturing a sense of responsibility in the child that helps him/her in the long run. 

One thing every parent needs to know is that it all begins at home. A school/preschool undoubtedly plays a major role in instilling the basic practices of responsibility but the actual implementation of these can only come into play when the same is reinforced at home. From small things such as picking up one’s own plate to bigger things that may include being responsible for their pet, a child only realizes his responsibilities and takes ownership towards these when these become a regular practice. 

Most parents are often confused if they should/should not engage their little one in household activities. If they should do so, then to what extent and to when to start? 

Below are few suggestions in implementing these:

Start  with simple work: For them to get accustomed, start with simple work like keeping their things at place, getting things for you from refrigerator etc., 

Never forget to appreciate the good work/efforts and to thank them for doing the work. They learn from their elders

Never force them: kids are usually very moody sometimes they may refuse to help you. They also get bored very easily so always keep in mind not to force them to help or work and it may permanently turn them off.

Never bribe them: children perceive that they have to help in order to get something in return. Next time they will help you only if they want something.

Merits of involving kids in household activities:

Enhances creativity

Problem solving ability will increase 

Channelizes energy productively

They will learn to appreciate other’s hard work

Develops better bonding between parent and child

Problem solving ability increases

Helps them in becoming independent

Helps in learning team work

Prevents kids from getting addicted to television or any other gadgets